越长大越心酸：帮你成长的10个残酷事实 In the game of life, if it often seems like you’re on the losing end of things, you’re not alone. Life can be one giant conundrum filled with ups and downs. When you feel like you’re experiencing more downs than ups, sometimes it helps to get a little tough love once in a while. That’s why we put together this list of 10 harsh truths that will help you grow.
1. Life isn’t fair.
Life will hand you lemons, often when you least expect it. The sooner you embrace this harsh truth, the better prepared you’ll be to handle tough situations that are sure to arise.
2. The first step is always the hardest.
Let’s face it: changing bad habits is tough. Research proves it. Chinese
philosopher Lao Tzu once said, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” So if you want to change something, start with baby steps. Take a small action–any action–and grow from there.
3. Good things usually don’t come quickly.
Great accomplishments in our lives normally don’t come easy. And if you think about it, would you have it any other way? There’s a basic psychological
principle called instantgratification, which means that we expect to get rewards instantly. But sometimes you need to fight the impulses your brain throws at you and trust that the journey you’re on is the right one.
4. Not everyone will support you along the way.
In life, there’s no shortage of doubters, haters, and pessimists. Overcoming this harsh truth is simple: don’t listen. Choose to stick with your guns, trust your instincts, and forget about people who don’t support your goals and passions. 你的人生中从来不缺乏怀疑者、嫉妒者和悲观主义者。克服这个残酷的现实很简单：别听他们的。坚守自己，相信你的直觉，忘掉那些不支持你的目标和激情的人。
5. You can’t always be in control of everything.
Listen, letting go is hard, especially if you’re a go-getter. But if you want to continue to grow, there are times when you need to relinquish your control on everything and let things unfold how they’re meant to be. This doesn’t mean your mentality for everything should be “wait and hope.” You can still strive for greatness, but put the work in and then let go with complete faith that the universe will make things right for you. You’ll be amazed at how well it works. 听着，放手不是件容易的事，尤其如果你还是一个能干的人。但如果你想继续成长，有时候你需要放弃对某些事的掌控，让一切顺其自然。这并不意味着你对待事情的态度是“静观其变”。你依然可以为了成就伟大而奋斗，只不过在努力之后，就可以放手，要相信上天会为你安排妥当。你会惊讶地发现一切都很顺利。
6. You can’t accomplish great things without taking great risks. 不入虎穴焉得虎子
Here’s another harsh truth many people have trouble grasping: if you don’t take risks you will have a lot harder time accomplishing what you want in life. People
who truly change the world are the biggest risk takers. They’re the ones who are willing to put everything on the line and fail for something they believe in. And they treat each failure as an opportunity to grow and get better.
7. You may be better off without some of the people you currently care about.
This one is tough to hear, I know. But chances are, there’s someone in your life you care about deeply who is holding you back. That’s not to say you should give up on the people you love. However, there comes a time when you need to make the tough decision to say no to people who aren’t helping you grow. 我知道这一点听起来很难以接受。但有可能你生命中某个你特别在乎的人阻碍了你前进。这不是说你要放弃那些你爱的人。可是有时候你需要作出艰难的决定，对那些不能帮助你成长的人说不。
8. Death is a part of life.
Nothing can prepare us for the earth-shattering pain of losing a loved one. The harsh truth of life is that it’s a viscous cycle. However, there’s something you can do to make losing someone you love a lot less painful: make them a part of your life right now. Don’t put off making that phone call or paying a random visit to a friend or family member you haven’t seen in a while. Treat every moment with your loved ones as if it’s your last, and you won’t have any regrets.
9. You are the only thing holding yourself back from greatness. 你是自己通向伟大的唯一阻碍
Often we get so caught up hoping for the next great thing that we don’t realize what’s unfolding right in front of our faces. Don’t hold yourself back with
negative thoughts. Instead, focus on the positive things you have going in your life. Choose to be happy right now.
10. Sometimes bad things happen to good people
Suffering is part of life. But here’s the cool thing: it makes us stronger. There’s a randomness to how the world works that’s really hard to understand. We see evidence of this every day, and it can really make you question the future of mankind. How you choose to view the world is up to you. Just remember, the truth, however harsh, will set you free.